[tweetmeme]The Reason why You buy from someone, What is it?
It’s obvious when you think about it.
Most of the times when you chose to buy a product or service from someone you have a reason for buying from that particular person.
I mean, no matter what it is that you are gonna buy, you normally have a multiple of choices of people to buy from. (sometimes thousands upon thousands of people selling the same thing).
If someone you don’t know (or someone you just met) starts pitching you and wanting to sell you something, chances are high that you will be repelled by that and not buy something at all from that person. Hardly anybody likes the feeling of being approached and pitched immediately when they meet someone.
I compare this to going to a coctail party. When you arrive there, you don’t start to sell people stuff the first thing you do.
Well, IF YOU DO, you will be looked at as a total jerk and you ruin your reputation.
Still, this is what many people and businesses do when they are comming online and start using social media.
They Spam their links all over the place. To their Twitter followers, their newly added Facebook friends and leaving comments with no value on everyont and their father’s blogs.
How Cool is that?
Well, I don’t like it!
And I belive I have many people with me on this.
Pelple want to buy from someone they TRUST, LIKE or KNOW (and preferably ALL of those three points at the same time).
So if you start by establishing relationships with with people, just like you would do on a cocktail party, you will start to connect with some people and they will get to know you. Hopefully they will also start like you and trust you and your chanses of them doing business with you sometime in the future will be increased enormously!
I call this method Attraction Marketing or Relationship Marketing.
If you recognize yourself in my description of people that are posting their links and trying to pitch and sell to someone as soon as you meet them, No Offense, There is always possible to change your methods of approaching people.
And If you don’t wanna change your methods, I don’t judge you, but I will probably not do business with you either. :)
To Your Attracted Success,
Dr Jon Alfredsson
PS. I would be happy to read what you think abour this video and the post! Please leave a comment below!
It is always appreciated!
:)

Dr Jon,
You made a great point about relationships first. So many people are short sighted in the marketing approach. If we lead with “what’s in it for me” instead of “what do my customers want” we are truly missing the boat.
You make a great point about relationship or attraction marketing. These are the fundamentals EVERYONE NEEDS to hear!
Ken Pickard
.-= Ken Pickard´s last blog ..Warrior Shout to Kary Rogney =-.
Hey Jon,
You said that MAGIC few
words… Know, Like & Trust!
That’s why creating relationships
is so important in the game… thanks
for sharing such a great post!
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You got my vote!
Not only do we have a multiple of choices of people to buy from, we also have as many to associate with, period. Some of us need to consider people don’t care what you have or what you know until they know how much you care.
If someone you meet starts coming off as pushy it is a negative. I usually feel a bit sorry because they are missing out really knowing people.
Jon,
Great video and post! You hit the nail on the head with this one! Relationships are the key! Thanks so much for this post!
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Hey Jon: Right on! Your days of great tips and idea are helping us new tweeters. Thanks Also, love you photo, you have such an eye
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Thank you for this very straight forward post! This is a very good point for most people as the business world has changed so much!
I also love all of your videos because your message is much more personal than just the writing.
Aloha,
Kellie :)
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